Have you ever had someone try and tell you what you were feeling was wrong? Or has someone ever tried to tell you how to feel? It’s happened to me and yes, you guessed it. I effing hate it (is this a rant now?). It’s usually the people who are so sure of themselves or try to front that they “have it all together”. Well good for you! The people over here in the back can barely get their shoes on in the morning. No, but seriously, all jokes aside. Your feelings should always feel valid.
If you’re anything like me, a lot of the time all of these feelings can be a lot to handle and bring on some unwanted anxieties. Over the years I’ve realized how important it was for me to please others. Even if that meant completely suppressing my feelings. If I felt something but knew it wouldn’t go over well with the other person I’d just choose not to bring it up. Or when I’d start to say how I feel, get interrupted, and then never get back to my feelings. Oh, what about when the other people get mad at you for feeling some type of way? These things have happened too many times.
The way I handle things is a bit different now because although I have all these anxieties and feelings, I’m more understanding that I shouldn’t be ashamed of them. Your feelings are valid because:
The last time I checked, there was only 1 person to a brain. In this case, that person is me (or you). Only I know I’m truly feeling. That is why it upsets me so much when someone thinks it’s okay to invalidate someone else’s feelings. You might not have a clue what’s going on in someones else’s mind.
There aren’t any rules. Even if what you’re feeling isn’t your best there aren’t any rules stating certain feelings are off-limits. Wouldn’t that be something if there were? People probably wouldn’t be so sure of themselves then.
To understand ourselves and certain situations we need to fully process our emotions. I mean, am I wrong here? For me to move forward I have to get to the root of the problem. That way I can find ways to avoid any future issues or at least try and prevent any unwanted feelings the best way possible.
I hate that I used to be scared to express myself. Too many times before I’ve witnessed others second-guessing themselves due to feeling invalidated (myself included). Well no more. I’m here to remind you that your feelings are your feelings and no one can take them from you. Someone who truly loves and respects you will take the time to understand what you’re feeling. This goes for both parties. Give each other the mutual respect we all deserve. Talk soon! 💖
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