Are you having a hard time after coming home with the baby? Do you find yourself crying here and there or maybe just a little numb. I know first hand how hard it is to actually take care of yourself when becoming a parent. Well for me at least. Your main focus is always going to be your baby. That’s absolutely okay but what about mama? Keep reading if you want to know some ways to stay on top of your own self-care.
1. Organize, organize, organize.
A big part of self-care for me is organization. If things are messy, life is messy, then I get messy. I feel all over the place and unable to concentrate. There is a sense of stability knowing you have an idea of what your day is going to look like. Make a checklist and enjoy ticking off each task as you go. Be on the lookout for a post on how I stay organized!
2. Wake up and get dressed.
Do not just stay in your pajamas. Do your hair and maybe even your makeup if you can. Give yourself that extra boost you need in the morning. It doesn’t have to be anything fancy but it shows your ready to get up and take on the day! I found that when I stay in my pajamas I just drag and I am more likely to want to lay down and lounge.
3. Take walks when you get a chance.
I promise you the fresh air will be so good for you. It’s also good for the baby to get some fresh air! As long as you aren’t in an enclosed space where the baby is likely to get sick, then I don’t see why not! It is also a great way to exercise while not exercising. If you know what I mean.
4. Be as active as possible.
For example, do a quick ab circuit, stretching, or yoga. You’re probably wondering where to find the time right? Well, it doesn’t have to be long. I find that even when I get a 5-minute stretch while he’s napping I feel a lot better. You can even break it up into sections throughout the day.
5. Don’t forget to eat and drink water.
Make sure you are eating and drinking. For the first 2 or 3 weeks home I did not eat or drink. I literally probably had 500 to 1000 calories for the entire week. Which is super unsafe but at that point I wasn’t thinking about me. I was either feeding Isaiah, holding Isaiah, or changing Isaiah. So I never really had the time to eat. When I did have the time to eat I did not have an appetite. I would get so turned off by the crying and frustration that the site of food meant nothing to me. Oh, and your girl LOVES food! You must eat and hydrate to stay well enough for yourself and to take care of your baby. Since doing so, I have had way more energy as well. I am still working on eating cleaner but this is a start.
You can never go wrong with these. They are free and inspiring. Sometimes you just need a good mantra to build up your confidence.
7. Don’t be afraid to get help.
I just recently started asking for more help but at first, I definitely wasn’t. As a new mom, you want to be able to do ANYTHING and EVERYTHING for your baby but sometimes you cant manage it all. Being a stay at home mom is JUST as hard as any other job. Believe it or not. No, I accept any help I can get. This way I can take showers, eat meals, or just have an hour or 2 for myself. If you knew how long I would go without a shower, you’d be surprised. In the long run, you will be much more content.
8. Join a group or connect with other mamas.
I cannot express enough how helpful being in a mom group is to me. All of the issues I thought only I was going through, other moms are too. Sometimes it’s comforting knowing someone else is in the same place as you are. It is a lot less lonely. It’s also great for advice or those burning late-night questions you may have.
9. Find your outlet.
What helps you escape? For me, that is blogging of course. I absolutely love writing these blogs. Once I start typing I don’t want to stop! For you, this could also be art, cooking, or reading. Whatever it is, take it and run with it. Make time each day to dedicate to whatever it is. Even if its for a few minutes.
Please keep in mind that these are just my opinions and what works for me. I am 7 weeks postpartum and just writing as I go. For a while, I would feel extremely guilty even thinking about doing something for myself but that had to change. Hopefully, this works just as well for you as it still does for me. What did I miss? Let me know some ways you self care! Whether you are a new mom or not.
As always, thanks so much for reading! Questions, comments, and feedback are always welcome. If you enjoyed this post, please comment, like and share! Make sure to check out my Instagram; @T_scorner 💋