Meet Jayleen from Florida!
Everyone welcome today’s special guest, Jayleen! How are you feeling today mama?
Today has been a good day. In motherhood, we have our ups and downs but most of all I’m excited of all the projects I’m working on in my business and all the connections I’m making. Including meeting you and being able to be a part of this, so thank you!
Where are you from?
I was born in Fajardo, Puerto Rico but was raised most of my life here in Florida.
How many children do you have?
I have two beautiful and sassy daughters. My oldest is 5 and youngest is 1.
How old were you when you had your first child?
I was 21 when I had my oldest daughter. Which is crazy to me. I certainly didn’t feel that young when I had her.
Do you remember your initial reaction when you found out you were pregnant?
When I first found out I was pregnant I was shocked. I only took the test because a friend of mine kept bugging me to take one since she swore I was pregnant. I didn’t even tell my husband right away. I called her first then took like 3 more tests before I told my husband.
What first comes to mind when you think of mental health?
The first thing that comes to my mind when I think of mental health is how scary that term can be to many people and how many people don’t worry about it as much as they should. They know it’s important to go get their yearly physical and to go to their primary when they’re sick but only view mental health as something voluntary. Not as something that is just as important as physical health.
Do you suffer from any mental illnesses yourself?
I do suffer from mental illness. Since I was very young I suffered from panic attacks and anxiety. I was medicated very early for it and as an adult I learned how to manage it without medication.
How was your mental health before you became a mama? How has motherhood changed or improved your mental health?
Like I mentioned before, I’ve always suffered from it but as a mom it definitely evolved. My panic attacks and anxiety were triggered more often at first which made me identify all these new triggers and ways to deal with them.
Do you practice self care?
Honestly, I’m not as good at this as I should. Simply because my youngest daughter has very bad separation anxiety and won’t allow me to leave the house without her. It’s definitely something we are working on as she gets older. But, I’m very aware of my triggers and when I need help. So, I do take time to call my mom and have a communication with her, and really just ask her to for help when I need it. (My mom does live 1 hour and 30 Minutes away) So most of the time it’s asking her to come over for a couple of days.
Do you have any stories you’d like to share?
I remember when I first shared with my husband about my anxiety. It was so hard to say the words and to explain to him how I felt during a panic attack. But after that it got soo much easier to tell him when I was not OK and to share it with other people.
Any advice for other mamas?
My biggest advice for other mama’s would have to be to not be afraid of the term mental health and asking for help doesn’t mean they have to go speak to a therapist right away. Don’t get me wrong if you need a professional there’s is absolutely nothing wrong with that. But a lot of the times all us moms need is a go to person to talk to when we’re having an episode and also, analyzing what triggers us and finding our own way to help us through those episodes and avoid those triggers altogether.
& please remember…
We need to continue to unite to help other mama’s out there for them to know it’s ok to talk about our mental health. And that they have a community that understands them because we are them.
What’s the scoop on Jayleen?
What’s your drink of choice?
Chocolate milk….. Just kidding definitely WINE!
Do you have a favorite TV show?
I love TV Shows in general. But to name a couple: Grey’s Anatomy, Stranger Things, Arrow, and Spanish Series. I know they are all different from each other.
What’s the cutest thing your kids have done?
My girls can do the cutest things especially when they know they’re in trouble. But I think the one that stands out the most is when they show love to each other by hugging each other and playing together. ( Basically, anytime they’re not fighting).
What’s your favorite restaurant?
This one is easy. Anyone who knows me knows that my favorite restaurant is Olive Garden. I just can’t get enough of that place.
Tell us your go-to song at the moment!
Definitely Tusa by Karol G ft. Nicki Minaj
Do you have any pets?
I currently only have 2 Cockatiel Birds (Sunny & Sunshine). Our 2 fishes and Snail are in a better place.
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